I’ve found friends through groups, in real life but also online. My groups are mainly quilting and my county Democrats party. I keep saying I’ll try to get into some knitting groups but I’m not sure that’s meant to be. My biggest friendship hacks are to be generous with compliments, and to say yes to invitations whenever possible.
This is definitely an article for people who like to socialize. The activities suggested or mentioned have no appeal to folks like myself who find socializing overwhelming and often times unappealing. I have no groups at present and am not looking for any. I have been like this all my life. (Could it be my ADHD…probably)
I have a few good friends that I see occasionally, and that is good enough for me. And a jello-wrestling party with mostly strangers is appealing as a swim in a tank with sharks. I must say I appreciate your courage and sense of adventure, appreciate your approach to life,and love love love your poetry.
I love this. You have inspired me to be more intentional with my friends. I'm an ambivert. I prefer solitude but love company even if it gives me a social hangover afterwards.
I've started a poetry club (like a book club, but we just read one poem). It's been a glorious way to meet like minded people.
I live in a non-English-speaking country and my language skills aren’t exceptional enough that I’d want to do it in the local language. Would be totally happy with something over Zoom if the time zones worked out.
Hi Kendra! My writing community, Sustenance, serves lots of international folks if you're interested. You can find info on my website. Do you have a favorite contemporary author who writes online? Many are building communities now and list event times on their websites. xxx
I love the part of right-sizing your network. Too many people are throwing away friendships that are just fine and only need a little adjusting of expectations and boundaries.
I've lost touch with a lot of friends the past few years because of health issues. My life revolved around horses for decades, so my social life did too. And when I got too ill to ride anymore, and to be at the stables with my horses and friends, well, my social life just crumbled. I've recently reached out to some of the ladies from the stables, and it's been nice to have quiet time with them, and hear about the horses. Some are supportive of my writing and poetry, which is nice, some "don't see the point"! I really want to join your writers group, Sustenance, as I understand it's very international - I live between Switzerland and Spain. I actually have more of a social life in Spain now, because Spain happened post illness, so nobody knew the other, super sporty Francesca! Also, more sunshine makes people more outgoing.
I've signed up for your course, and look forward to delving into that asap.
I’ve found friends through groups, in real life but also online. My groups are mainly quilting and my county Democrats party. I keep saying I’ll try to get into some knitting groups but I’m not sure that’s meant to be. My biggest friendship hacks are to be generous with compliments, and to say yes to invitations whenever possible.
This is definitely an article for people who like to socialize. The activities suggested or mentioned have no appeal to folks like myself who find socializing overwhelming and often times unappealing. I have no groups at present and am not looking for any. I have been like this all my life. (Could it be my ADHD…probably)
I have a few good friends that I see occasionally, and that is good enough for me. And a jello-wrestling party with mostly strangers is appealing as a swim in a tank with sharks. I must say I appreciate your courage and sense of adventure, appreciate your approach to life,and love love love your poetry.
I love this. You have inspired me to be more intentional with my friends. I'm an ambivert. I prefer solitude but love company even if it gives me a social hangover afterwards.
I've started a poetry club (like a book club, but we just read one poem). It's been a glorious way to meet like minded people.
I love that idea!
Question: Any tips on finding a writers’ group?
I live in a non-English-speaking country and my language skills aren’t exceptional enough that I’d want to do it in the local language. Would be totally happy with something over Zoom if the time zones worked out.
Hi Kendra! My writing community, Sustenance, serves lots of international folks if you're interested. You can find info on my website. Do you have a favorite contemporary author who writes online? Many are building communities now and list event times on their websites. xxx
Thanks! I’m on the Sustenance waitlist but will look up some of my (other ☺️) favorite writers to see if they have groups I could join too 🥰
Joy, I'm also curious on how you formed your intimate, in-person writing group? Any tips on how to do that locally?
I love the part of right-sizing your network. Too many people are throwing away friendships that are just fine and only need a little adjusting of expectations and boundaries.
Hi Joy,
What a lovely piece this is!
I've lost touch with a lot of friends the past few years because of health issues. My life revolved around horses for decades, so my social life did too. And when I got too ill to ride anymore, and to be at the stables with my horses and friends, well, my social life just crumbled. I've recently reached out to some of the ladies from the stables, and it's been nice to have quiet time with them, and hear about the horses. Some are supportive of my writing and poetry, which is nice, some "don't see the point"! I really want to join your writers group, Sustenance, as I understand it's very international - I live between Switzerland and Spain. I actually have more of a social life in Spain now, because Spain happened post illness, so nobody knew the other, super sporty Francesca! Also, more sunshine makes people more outgoing.
I've signed up for your course, and look forward to delving into that asap.
Sending you lots of love from the Swiss Alps!
Francesca xx